In order to be in control of others, first you must be in control of yourself

It sounds delightful, does it not? Someone that obeys your every whim, exists to serve you and your needs and looks up to you worshipfully with stars in their eyes. Who wouldn’t want to sign up for that? What a self esteem booster, am I right?

So when you hear about this kinky lifestyle business, you can’t wait to become a part of it. This is what you have been waiting for your whole life! Maybe if you are really lucky you might end up with a harem of hot naked sex slaves at your beck and call feeding you grapes and doing your dishes.

It isn’t until you try and start collecting your rightful harem of starry-eyed submissives that you start to run into trouble. You start barking orders at these so called submissives and they…do not obey!! The shock. The horror.

Obviously they are not TRUE submissives and you thoughtfully take the time to point that out to them. They should be informed of the error of they ways. The shock continues as they are not receptive to your feedback on how a proper submissive should act. They might even mock you or snark at you in a very unsubmissive manner.

You slink away, discouraged and bitter and frustrated. You might even melt down and start insulting them, calling them “ugly” and “fat” and unworthy of the title of submissive. This BDSM thing is all a farce. Everyone is a fake, just game players and bad actors.

Take a deep breath and say it with me: “A submissive, not YOUR submissive.” As it turns out, the world is not teeming with weak-willed folk with just waiting to obey the orders of a complete stranger. Oh, sure, they are out there. But the people with low enough personal boundaries to blindly obey the orders of a stranger or relative stranger have low life expectancies. Usually from choking to death on their own drool or something of the sort.

In order to be in control of others, first you must be in control of yourself. And a “Dom” that comes charging at strangers demanding instant submission and then melting down when they do not get what they want doesn’t really inspire much panty dropping submission in others. It comes across as more like a 5 year old having a temper tantrum. And nobody wants to submit to a 5 year old…

Food for thought my friends.
Keep it kinky!
RDG