I am not a perfect victim. If, heaven forbid, anything ever happened to me, the new reports would not read “Rain DeGrey, wife, writer and activist, loving owner of 2 dogs and 2 cats” but rather “Rain DeGrey BDSM porn star” and that label skews everything else you might read. I would, in some way, *deserve* whatever happened to me because of my day job.
I never factored in that when I decided to become a Professional Naked Person that I would be trading in some basic rights as a result.
Most people can reasonably expect that they should not be hassled, talked down to, berated, dismissed or mocked. Oh sure, these things happen to us all. But once you throw in that I am a PNP, all of a sudden these is a distinct and distasteful undercurrent of “Well. She IS just a porn star. What does she expect?” in so very many of my interactions with other people.
I am not a perfect victim. While the fact I can be found naked on the internet is in no way the most important thing about me as a person, it is all others seem to see, and the label of “porn star” is the prism that everyone filters their interactions with me through. Go to the cops for being stalked? They would laugh me out of the station. Stand up for not being hassled and persecuted? How quickly the slurs of “Dumb whore” “Stupid porn skank” and “Go choke on a dick you cum sponge” get tossed my way.
For all that people voraciously consume what PNP produce, they seem to be unable to not look down their nose at the people making it. People love porn. LOVE LOVE LOVE it. But they also love to hate the people that make it. And I did not sign up to be a second class citizen when I decided to explore an aspect of being kinky that brings me so much joy.
I will always be an activist. I will always stand up for what I believe in. I will, to my very last breath, demand to be treated equally with my fellow human beings. You might not like it. You might wish the loud mouthed porn girl would just shut the fuck up already about nonconsensual dick photos flung her way by total strangers, you might think that I have less rights then a perfect victim.
I honestly do not care what you think. You can not slut shame me. You can not make me feel guilty about doing something I love. I will not be quiet. I will always fight for my rights. I am more then the cartoon character you carry around in your head. I am flesh and blood, I am human, and I deserve to be treated equally and reasonably.